If you clicked here, you are a man, or you know one, who is facing or in the middle of a divorce. We are sorry. This is one of the most stressful things a person can go through and we think men have it particularly rough because in addition to losing half of everything they have worked for, they sometimes face losing access to their kids. Keep in mind, your marriage is a failure, you are not a failure. You need to be strong – for you and your children. But even the strongest of men need help too. You need help . . . it just doesn’t make sense to go through this alone.

In certain situations, the laws governing divorces unfairly favor women. For instance, the laws, while well intended, my favor women in the division of assets. Washington is a community property AND a no-fault state, which means that all assets and income acquired by a man during a marriage is presumed to belong, fifty percent, to his wife. This is true even when the marriage falls apart because of the wife’s infidelity, refusal of intimacy with her husband, drug and alcohol addiction, abusive behavior and other conduct that might lead to marital destruction. So, when a husband is the sole income earner, half his income and savings is subject to a 50/50 split - even in cases where this is unfair. 

For example, imagine a married couple where there are no children or the children are adults or no longer need significant care from either parent. The husband is and for years has been, the only income worker. This affords his wife a life of relative leisure, free of the daily grind associated with a job. Image even further that during her life of leisure, she uses her free time to start an extra-marital affair, with an extremely wealthy man, which ultimately leads to the destruction of the marriage. Half that man’s savings, income, retirement, home, muscle cars, boat, motorcycle, toys and everything he has worked for is subject to being sold and split. That isn’t fair. 

You cannot change the laws and please do not be deceived – we really can’t either. What you can do though is make sure you hire lawyers who believe situations like this are unfair and are passionate about getting you the fairest possible outcome under the circumstances. Don’t hire a lawyer who will represent whichever side gets to them first. He or she may take your case, but ultimately YOUR cause, is not their passion. Your cause is Our Passion.